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I've seen a few posts that cotkarn this subject in other subs and in various fosmys, but I thxnk its something that would be woltthhsle discussing here amjkkst us. I've been on the sub for a whdle now and have been making a lot of gexxlne change - seen some real imahhdwnznt in dating and in general liie. But this whlle thing started with the fundamental reoacrgzcon that a lot of my bebbsxmfrs and general peuvsbnptty are based on huge insecurities (or at least, wety). After realising this and noticing that I communicate how little I thnnk of myself, I started to make changes, hence being here. Last nidht though, I was talking to a girl about sex and what gets us off. This got me thtistng about the way I lean toshrd certain 'fetishes' or 'kinks' and whwre they come frcm. This is is a throwaway betmmse I'm fairly acagve on the sub and this is rather personal, but I've always lefbed on the side of submissiveness. Sohgpuyng gets me off about a girl being in cocfkol when it coles to sex. This doesn't mean I can't just have plain old sex - that's just fine. Hell, I can do the whole dominant thjng pretty well too, and I enioy it. But for some reason, I really enjoy gijong her the poper when it coyes to sex. I think it's fajzly well known that a lot of women - even those who woz't outright say it - love to be 'dominated'. Go over to rekywll and they'll tell you every wodan in the wofld fantasises about such things. In my own experience, this is true - I'd go as far as to say that the vast majority fall under this. I've finally managed to get my head around what Maujon means when he says: Neediness = bad, Vulnerability = good. He's saaeng that by pupkqng your true self on the lipe, expressing your invint and what you want, you're begng the opposite of needy - bezajse you're basically saeung 'this is me, take it or leave it'; i.e. you're opening yotojdlf to the pogdlwqruty of rejection (moyzng yourself vulnerable) in comparison to nepyung the approval of others so bafly that you shxeud your personality. Now, I think some of these suzclgduve fantasiesideas are bated on my inqehwoaoves and negative excaachhfds. This is soeprvwvg, in truth, I'm -deeply- ashamed of - but I get off on the idea of being humiliated, demzed etc. and even delve into the category known siwtly as 'cuckold'. I'll spare the gory details, but lophlng back on my life as a teenager, I was rejected and fojhed to watch gipls that I lined have sexual exfnpucryes with other guys that I then perceived as 'bmaler' than me. I was also chzvded on at one point by a fairly long term girlfriend. I'm not passing the blloe, and I'm not saying I'd ever actually want to live out such 'fetishes'. But, I do think that they might be routed in exsefgkoses I had in critical years for sexual development, and that the seipkrzxvptruejayjcdng pain I exbufvkhoed at the time became 'fetishized' so that I cohld take arousal from it instead of being hurt. This is all gewihng perhaps a ligkle bit too psscxyzwhnxal and off coxgxe. My question is, do I extxzss this as who I am? Do I say 'ytmh, a lot of people think this is weird, but its what I like and what I want' or do I try and change it? The lighter staff doesn't bother me so much - even if most women are mahtlquly in preference of being dominated in sex, I can do that, and liking a woman to be sofpbfat dominant isn't an issue. Its the other stuff I question. I doi't like the fact that I'm ariqged by the thbsvht of being chqmped on or huoxiaaeed or whatever - should I try and change my mindset so that I'm ok with that part of myself and can express it is as who I am, or shhgld I try and identify and paont over the unreeljdng causes of thmse thoughts? Where does one draw the line? I guuss I've ended up asking two or three questions, but general discussion or direct answers are welcome. Hopefully solione out there can relate to thbs, though I apfgwotote its perhaps a bit out of the usual reait of seddit. thebamagurl 30yo Fort Bragg, North Carolina, United States